Have we been in this country for more than 400 years, survived slavery, segregation,
Jim Crow and other atrocities--to put our own race out of business by
making men invisible and women educated?
I don't think
me say up front that I am not against my sisters getting impressive credentials.
However, the reason why God opened the academic and financial doors to
many women of color is to be helpers to men of color so we can all be
blessed as a people and a nation! Not just a chosen few.
know where you are today, brothers, but I have noticed many of our politicians-black
and white-liberal and conservative-quickly pointing out the number of
up-and-coming young women they have on their staffs-but few young men
of color. I have noticed-even in the Black community-that when
a Black company does make it, you see a whole lot of young women, but
if any-young men in the photos of celebration.
Go to any
African American businessman or businesswoman and ask them how many young
men of color are working for them and they give you the same refrain
we heard from other cultures: "We can't find any!"
as those individuals go to work, head to school, or out to shop, there
are dozens of young men of color who go overlooked, under-encouraged and
under-appreciated by their own people.
preach the education is needed doctrine only to our young women, without
teaching them how to cook, clean, or sew. We proudly state that
our daughters know more about financial portfolios than how to use an
oven, make their own clothes, or shop at a grocery store for other than
something that can be made in a microwave. A young woman full of
education, but void of common sense in how to carry herself is nothing
more than a well-groomed Delilah waiting to clip your son, Samson.
And, we all know what happened to that brother! It's recorded in
the Book of Judges.
On our bookshelf
this month; "Faith of the Fatherless" by Paul C. Vitz (1999, Spence Publishing,
174 pages). If you want to know how to turn a young man either towards
God, or away from Him, read some of these historical stories about a
of men and what happened to them with/and without having a father around
to make a difference.
have "Going For The Max", by Max Cleland (1999, Broadman & Holman
Publishing, 144 pages). Vietnam veteran, former State and U.S.
Senator Max Cleland lays down 12 important points that helped him turn
around, and will make a difference if we want to experience life to the
golden oldie by Carlton Pearson, "Is There A Man in The House?"
(1996, Destiny/Image Publishing, 172 pages). If you are finally
becoming aware of the problems of manhood in America, this is a good primer
book. Pearson's give-and-take examples on marriage alone should
open more than a few eyes of both sexes.
"Brothers, if you want your wife to act like a thoroughbred, don't treat
her like a nag!" - Tony Evans