Brothers, as I open this month's column, I can't help but to think about the hundreds
of men--young and old--who have been pre-programmed to fail to become
men of quality because of our feminized society. The issue that got me
to thinking about this column could best be labeled: 'Sexual sin in the
Workplace.' Of course, our feminized mainstream press offerings call this
issue: 'The Workplace Affair.'
times a year--stories seem to surface about how men and women who work
in whatever profession 'happen' to get 'romantically involved' with each
other while on the job. The impression one comes away with is that the
couple involved in the 'backdoor romance' simply couldn't
help themselves. I beg to differ.
Here in my neck
of the mighty Midwest over the last few years, two school corporations
have been rocked by top officials involved in a little 'after hours romance'.
The end result for those involved was the same. Both lost their jobs and
their marriages. The school corporations lost a lot of public support
while they had to rebuild their image and dignity. Lastly, the young people
who attended school in these school corporations were left
scratching their heads and wondering if the adults who had charge of them
have learned to grown up themselves.
Over the last
few years, men from various walks of public life have been cut down in
their leadership prime because of Adultery on the job. I'm not going to
name names, because you already know who some of them are. They can be
as far away as the White House, or as near as the locker down the row
from you, or, at the house up the block. Plus, don't be fooled into thinking
that they 'got away' with their negative activities. Rest assured--they
didn't, and never will no matter how the press may spin it or no matter
how much in the way of 'hush money' is paid out!
But we are going
to head for some deep water in this column, as we are going to meet the
issue head on, and perhaps spare some brother the pain of public humiliation
and the destruction of a family.
YOU DON'T HAVE TO PARTICIPATE IN IT!:
make it plain upfront. Just because the 'Office Hottie' has set her sights
on you does not mean you have to give in! In the words of Pastor John
Hagee: "It's the blast that doesn't last!" Pastor E.V. Hill, another one
of my preaching heroes, made it even more plain as he addressed a gathering
of ministers a few years ago in Chicago. "Brothers...if you want to sit
in Joseph's Seat...YOU HAVE TO KEEP CONTROL
OF YOUR PANTS!" In
short, the man who can't control his sexual desires, can't be counted
on to run his household, a school, a corporation, or a country.
They end up disqualified
from--and for--leadership! Yes, the temptation is always going to be there.
In the workplace, the probability of your co-worker, manager or supervisor
being of the female persuasion is very real. Some of them may actually
be quite attractive and easy on the eyes. However, you don't have to yield
to temptation when it comes a-knocking on the doors of your eyes and heart.
You can say NO and mean it!
More than one study has surfaced analyzing some of the common characteristics
of Adulterous relationships. Would you believe that 'availability' of
the participants placed higher than 'physical beauty'? Breaking this down
into plain English, the studies suggest that the woman you may 'think'
that you are interest in on the job is not prettier than your wife; she
is just more available for your pursuit! A question for you from the Old
School brothers: Why settle for hamburger on the job when you have steak
at home? Thus, here are a few ways you can avoid being 'workplace road
kill' on your job, should temptation decide to stop by your office.
ONE: BRAG ABOUT YOUR WIFE!
One of the ways that you can head off any mess on the job is the following
if you are married: brag on, and lift up your wife! Put her picture proudly
on your desk or in your locker. If you are married and are on the job,
make sure EVERYONE knows and understands that you are married, and don't
intend to give up steak for workplace hamburger! Brothers, some of us
drift over into the wrong side of the column not because of our words,
but because of our silence! If you are married, there is no reason why
you should be fearful of telling others--especially younger female CO-workers.
First, it sets a good example; second it gives others the opportunity
to check their own marriage vows and make sure that they are also demonstrating
loyalty to their home. Sometimes, you can improve your marriage by bragging
on it! Don't treat your wife as a liability, but as your most prized
If the truth be told brothers, if we are honest with ourselves, some
of us wouldn't have the blessings in earning power that we do have IF
WEREN'T FOR OUR WIVES! Brothers, make sure that you talk up your wife
so much on the job, that when she drops by for a visit and introduces
herself, she will get an honored reception. People on the job will have
heard of her love and character so much from you, that they will be stunned
by her class and beauty when she finally arrives. And the married sisters
in the house said: 'Amen!'
TWO: WEAR YOUR WEDDING BAND!
This next point is going to upset a lot of preachers that I know,
but I'm heading straight down the fairway with this shot: Brothers, if
you are married, WEAR THE HARDWARE! Nothing adds to confusion quicker
than a married man trying to pretend that he is single by not wearing
his wedding ring. Get the biggest, baddest, and brightest wedding band
that you can find, keep it on, and keep it visible! There is no shame
in being married. As a matter of fact, in light of some of the antics
among the single men I have known over the years, they never quite seem
to make it to maturity because of their dating around.
THREE: DON'T SHOP AND TOUCH!
Marriage may not be for everyone; but I notice that the Bible says
more to the married man than it does to the single man! One point that
is made very clear in several places: Brother, if she is not your woman,
keep your hands (and everything else) to yourself! Don't try to squeeze
the Charmin under any circumstances!
The life you save could be your own. Under the 'Old School' rules, a woman
did not bother to file a 'sexual harassment' charge when a male CO-worker
or boss decided to 'get a little frisky' on the job. She usually did two
things: one, she balled up her fist and gave the offender a strong right
to the jaw--followed by the heaviest
object on her desk; second, she picked up the phone and called her husband
and told him what was going on. 'Daddy' would be waiting in the parking
lot with a tire iron for the offender as the day ended, and a little 'curbside
justice' was administered.
The reason why we well remember the Bible story of Joseph is that
this young brother had the courage to resist Potiphar's beautiful wife
when she made advances toward him day after day after day. When resistance
failed, and she kept on 'a comin', Joseph put shoe leather to concrete
and beat it out of the house! Brothers, there are a few women who won't
take NO for an answer, no matter how well you carry out rules one through
three! In those rare situations, the best solution is to resign from
job, clean out your desk, and head home to your wife. It's better to
lose a job than to lose your home. After all, as the Old School saying
goes: "You've got to keep Mama happy; cause if Mama ain't happy--ain't
Want to avoid
being on the six o'clock news as 'Fail Bait'? Put your passion in your
home and your sweat in your job--and never confuse the two.