The numbers are staggering, and are
showing little sign of letting up. More and more teenage girls
being sent to juvenile hall, reform school, and on to prison.
The rising number of teenage girls involved in street gangs--not
just as followers--but as leaders. In hallways of many schools,
teenage girls are engaging in much of the same behavior detested
in teenage boys--cussing, fussing, fighting, and packing guns
As a matter of fact, the day after I wrote this column,
a fifteen-year-old girl was arrested at a local high school
and taken to juvenile hall for being found with a loaded
.22 semi-automatic in her purse. A few months after I penned
this column, there was another local case of a girl who
had been living on the streets for the better part of a
year, turning tricks to put cash in her pocket, all because
she didn’t like the rules her mother had put on her
at home. A few years after I had originally written this
column, one teen girl who lived in the Baltimore, MD area
was beaten into unconsciousness by a rival teen female--and
some of the attacker’s older female relatives--under
the guise of ‘protecting’ a perceived relationship
with a teenage boy.
I think that you are getting my drift as to the severity
of the problem.
For many a year, the feminists and their allies in the
mainstream press have been eagerly browbeating us men, telling
us what ‘we need to do’ with young men. And,
brothers, it took us a while to get the message, but we
have done the job.
Well, let me be the first to put the shoe on the other
foot, and go public with my words: ‘It’s high
time that WOMEN get these TEENAGE GIRLS under control!’
In short, it’s time for women to roll up their sleeves,
pull down the hemlines, cover up the over-exposure of flesh,
and get back to teaching young women how to become women
of quality, rather than someone’s rap video plaything.
ONLY SO MUCH MEN CAN DO:
Brothers, just as it takes a man to teach a boy how to become
a man, it takes a woman to teach a girl how to become a
woman. The problem in our modern day is that there are far
too many women who are more interested in competing with
their daughters for the available men that are out in society,
rather than being content with the husband that they do
have. Can I get an AMEN from the husbands in the house?
Let’s head on down the course a little further.
Without proper training from Godly women, young women are
heading down a slippery slope. There are many male teachers--young
and old--who have been propositioned by girls as young as
ten or eleven years old! The favorite question of these
young wannabe’ temptresses in many a classroom is
not; ‘What’s tonight’s homework assignment,’
but rather; ‘Are you married?’
No wonder there is a shortage of men in the middle and
high school teaching ranks. What male teacher wants to be
‘set up’ because of a scorned eleven year old?
But that’s not all. I’ve heard through the
‘underground grapevine’ that, if a teenage boy
‘rejects’ or ‘won’t talk to’
a teenage girl who is interested in him--thanks to our PC
society and school environment--the teenage girl will run
to the Dean of Students and ACCUSE HIM OF SEXUAL HARRASSMENT!
You may think that I am pulling your leg on this one, but
trust me--I have already seen it happen in my home city.
It may be coming to a city near you--and your son may be
the target. Even if you get the culprit to ‘fess up’,
your son’s academic record may be in ruins...unless
you have the bank to get a lawyer to clean up such a mess.
Brothers, the day has come for us to use the same vigor
that we have been demonstrating in working with our young
men, to encourage women to get back into the Timothy and
Titus molds and training younger women in their duties to
God and the family.
How can a ‘Christian’ woman claim to be ‘called’
to ‘preach’, or ‘serve’ as an ordained
‘Pastor’ or ‘Bishop’, yet DENY the
foundational truths of the scriptures when it comes to her
role as ‘mentor’ to younger women in the faith?
I expect those women without Christ to be stiff necked and
hard headed…but we are seeing a whole LOT of ‘Concrete
Trucks’ in church driveways lately.
I’ve got a clue for you, brothers…they are
NOT delivering for the church building, but some women WITHIN
the church building!
‘HOT’ GRANDMAS AND ‘COLD’ COMMON-SENSE:
Remember when Grandmas used to be in their fifties and sixties?
I have noticed that there are women in their mid-thirties
who are grandmothers!
And, they are not above hitting the strip to have a little
fun. May/December romances are not a thing of the past,
nor of social gossip, anymore. Just turn on any TV Talk
show, and you can see the host or hostess giving their ‘tips’
on how Granny can ‘shake them hips’.
With the weather turning warmer, the skirts getting shorter,
and modesty becoming non-existent; some women--who have
come from families that should have taught them better--
have become hot ‘Grandmas’ out there, trying
to ‘get their roll on’, just like their daughters--and
in some cases, granddaughters!
Like I said brothers, this is not a man problem.
This is a woman problem. And, for you sisters who read
my column on a regular basis (and show it to your man),
this one is for YOU. Woman, teach thy sister!
Her life, and the life of your relationship may depend upon
it, when she shows up on your doorstep and tries to ruin
Sisters, the relationship you could save, by helping teenage
girls to become young women of quality, may be your own.
You can’t watch another’s house burn, without
some hot ashes heading your way. It’s not ‘someone
else’s problem’, but YOURS.
WHY WOMEN NEED TO TRAIN WOMEN:
Now, there are some sisters who may be reading this column
and wondering: “How is THIS my problem?”
Here are a few questions to answer this question.
*What will YOU do if your son, brother, or cousin is ‘stalked’
by some ‘free-thinking’ woman who is bound and
determined to ‘bed’ him?
*What will YOU do if your father or grandfather is accused
of Sexual Harassment by some Lolita who ‘thinks’
they have a crush on them?
*What will YOU do if the sister down the street, or on
your job, gets tired of how well your man treats you, and
decides that she wants a piece of him because she won’t
take the time to get her own ‘act’ together
in order that a good man will find her?
Real questions based on real life.
Plus, there is another reason why women must train women.
The biblical mandate.
It is clear, and is found in the New Testament.
It is up to older men to train younger men, and the older
women to train younger women. The reason for such an order-setting
pattern is simple: there are just some topics which are
meant to be shared between women, and some topics meant
to be shared between men.
In other words; men have been ordained to provide for the
home, yet women have been ordained to make a home worthy
In the Book of Ruth, Naomi--the older woman--take the time
to educate, or ‘hip’ Ruth--the younger woman—in
the ways of womanhood. Naomi, while disappointed with the
initial outcome of her life, because of circumstances, reversals,
and downturns, still found the time to put away her crying
towel to do what she was created to do; help an unsure,
awkward, young girl to become a mature woman who would be
a blessing to society, rather than a curse.
In my humble opinion, there are far too many older women
in the ‘blaming’ game, rather than getting involved
in the ‘training’ game. Our streets are full
of young women who know more about Wall Street than how
to help the family down her street. As one businessman once
told me: ‘We have an abundance of educated fools;
men who are smart and won’t provide; women who are
smart, and won’t receive.’
Eventually, Naomi trained Ruth to such a point that Ruth
went solo, and landed the man of her dreams, Boaz--a mighty
man of wealth. Naomi trained Ruth to know the difference
between the ‘punks, skunks, and drunks’, and
she--the little foreign girl who was hated by the insiders,
wound up married to the wealthiest man in town! As a bonus,
Ruth and Boaz were firmly imbedded into the bloodline of
Jesus Christ--all because Naomi stopped thinking about her
past, and reached forward to a better future by helping
someone--a young woman--in need!
WOMEN OF OLD WHO WERE BOLD:
When an older woman helps to shape the life of a younger
woman, she could impact the destiny of an entire nation
of people! Harriet Tubman, Phyllis Wheatley, Sojourner Truth,
and other sisters from our past were raised on God and the
Church! Their courage inspired dozens, if not hundreds of
women, and supported untold dozens of men. When we look
at THEIR exploits in history, there is not a modern woman
who can hold a candle to them! What modern innovation compares
to the Underground Railroad?
Yes, these were real, flesh and blood women.
However, when the going got rough, they didn’t ‘opt
out’ for a seminar on self-esteem. They remembered
how they were ‘raised up’ by other women, and
faced the day at hand, working as a team with the men around
If only many of the modern women of today had such courage!
But, I digress.
Brothers, we need to encourage our women to get back to
the basics. Not in a harsh way, but in a truthful manner.
Let us stick with those brothers who need help, but refer
our ‘younger sisters’ to those women in our
communities who have a track record of sobriety, modesty,
and maturity. They exist. They are as close as the Mother’s
Board of your local church, or, within the confines of your
local home. Quality women--just like quality men--don’t
just happen. Someone has taken the time to get involved
with them and helped them see that they don’t have
to be a statistic, but they can be an inspiration.
The evidence is clear that more and more men are helping
the younger brothers.
We are still waiting for women to reach and teach their
© 2005 Mike Ramey/Barnstorm Communications International.
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