While many young men have been enjoying
their summers, some interesting items snaked their way across my desk from many
an MSM website involving female teachers and male students. Now, for those who
may have tuned in late and assumed that its not ‘that big a deal’
to hear about older women/younger men, I’d just like to point out that it
USED to not be that big a deal…until the older women turned out to be the
teachers of the younger men and the dating arena turned out to be your son’s
classroom or high school cafeteria.
With the nation’s retailers heavily involved in selling the back-to-school
set everything from notebook paper to backpacks, one could say that this issue
is being overlooked. This school year, I would heartily advise many among the
brotherhood to teach their sons, and ANY young male whom they may know about the
dangers of this issue BEFORE it explodes into a scandalous explosion of guilt,
shame, and a very adult courtroom setting.
BLAMING THE VICTIM:
I find it interesting that the defense being raised by some smart lawyers in some
of the latest school scandals is the following: the ‘adult’ female
teacher was somehow ‘seduced’ by the minor male student. In other
words, the victim--the under aged minor male student--somehow managed to ‘seduce’
his older, female, adult, certified, veteran teacher.
An adult is SUPPOSED to know better, right?
Not so! To hear some of these oversexed authority figures talking through their
lawyers in the press, these female stalkers are stating in public that it’s
their student’s fault for the illicit relationship.
Check this potential scenario out involving YOUR son: “Furthermore, your
honor, with his ‘bedroom’ eyes, and his ‘urban’ cool,
15 year old Johnny manage to ‘talk’ his adult, female teacher…into
various and sundry steamy after class rendezvous. Oh yes, judge, Johnny forced
me to use my credit card to buy him a new car, and forced me to give him the key
to my house for our afternoon teaching ‘sessions’.”
NOT A FANTASY--BUT A NIGHTMARE!
You can hear my answer coming on this: BALDERDASH!
Stay with me on this, brothers. YOUR SON may be the one on the receiving end
of such a statement, regardless of how far under ‘the age of consent’
he may be.
Many of us have seen in the MSM how ‘independent’ modern women
are supposed to be. After all, many a brother has been told, either in song or
in person, that ‘sisters are doing it for themselves’, right? It is
indeed a curious sign of the times when women who have allegedly been ‘liberated’
are getting caught with their fingers (and other assorted body parts) with and
by some of their under aged male students are trying such SAD excuses. These same
adult sisters--black and white--are also getting caught with motel receipts, on
store and mall video security cameras and--in one particular case--in police wiretaps
fawning over their teen male ‘lovers’ to the willing exclusion of
their OWN husbands and children.
I find it more curious that the MSM admits that female teachers who seduce
male students are treated differently than male teachers who seduce female students.
To hear the media state it, Male teachers are treated as ‘brutes and animals’
while the female teachers are treated as having ‘issues’ or ‘problems’.
It truly boggles the mind.
TALE OF THE THREE ARROWS:
In order to keep your sons, nephews--or their friends--from being in a police
line up on this matter, as a public service for the protection of our boys, I’d
like to present three items of teaching that older brothers should be teaching
to our young men. They come from the Book of Proverbs and they are three arrows
that ALL young men need for the road of life. They MUST be applied right at the
heart of evil.
The FIRST arrow, let the younger brothers know that there ARE some females
they need to stay AWAY from, regardless of their age. The very real dangers of
boys being stalked by older women in positions of authority, be they administrators,
classroom assistants, or school teachers is no longer a joke. Anytime a girl--or
a woman--tries to ‘smooth’ their way into a young man’s life
through expensive presents, inordinate amounts of attention, threats--or even
bullying--young brothers NEED to make tracks to the highest ranking MALE authority
figure whom they trust in the school setting.
Solomon made this point very clear to his son…and FUTURE brothers coming
along. The Book of Proverbs urges young men to not only be wise, but pursue wisdom
and understanding at ALL costs, and STAY AWAY from dangerous situations.
STILL MORE WISDOM AHEAD:
The SECOND arrow, WATCH what they say--especially about sexual matters. Too many
young brothers underestimate the power of the opposite sex, and base their ability
to ‘cope’ with girls and women based upon what they have seen in some
of the Hip Hop and Rap videos that criss-cross our airwaves. We older brothers
have to let our younger men KNOW that talk about sexual matters with members of
the opposite sex, no matter how innocent, can ‘fan the flames’ of
passion, and give the wrong impression to individuals, especially women who may
be out for more than casual conversation.
Don’t let an adult female, especially a married adult female--regardless
of how ‘cute’ it may sound--get you talking about sexual matters and
your sexual experience, my young brother. That’s personal and restricted
Ready for the last arrow?
The THIRD arrow is clearly marked ABSTINENCE! Simply put, Solomon and a lot of
other brothers in the Bible made it plain about waiting to get married BEFORE
getting involved in long term sexual relations with a woman.
I realize that this is not a popular arrow, but it is a NEEDED arrow. And,
if MORE of the brotherhood were honest with our younger men, WE would stave off
some future heartache.
For an older woman to ‘bed’ a teenage boy is setting him up for
some adult problems, ranging from Statutory Rape, to adultery, to sexually transmitted
diseases. NOT to mention long lasting damage to his reputation.
Why this type of column, and why now? Let’s just say that its time that
more of the brotherhood get back into the wising up of some of our young brothers
for yet another school year. Not all of life’s lessons can be learned out
of a school book or in a classroom. It takes the ‘pulling aside’ of
younger men by older men and the exchange of wisdom for true survival.
Hell hath no greater statistics than uninformed young men.
© 2005 Mike Ramey/Barnstorm Communications International.
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